So Denise over at Freezer Buns posted here about friends in real life who read her blog. As I was reading it I:
A) Wished *I* was her friend in real life 'cause she seems pretty kick ass. Many of you seem pretty kick ass in fact and I am sad that you don't all live here in my town so we could have coffee or alcoholic beverages or something. The only local infertility support group I have seen posted is "Christian based." While I am down with the Jesus and all, I don't really need him all up in my lady-business. And I doubt they drink as they kvetch.
Of course, it's quite possible that irl, some of you would dislike me with a passion. Hell, maybe you dislike me online.
B) Thought about my decision to not tell anyone about my blog. While I think it might be useful in terms of keeping up with friends, I think I would end up holding back. I am not by any means a holding back person. I will tell people about my evil terrible thoughts that I KNOW everyone thinks but that nobody wants to talk about. I am blunt, though I try to never be mean. I have lost friends because I can be a self-righteous biatch. ( Although I must point out that I was right in this particular situation and saved a teenager from an std.) See part A about maybe not liking me irl.
But I don't necessarily want everyone irl to know everything about my infertility. It becomes awkward. A_ told people right and left that we were ttc and I had to yell at him to stop, because I didn't want them inquiring later if it didn't happen quickly. And of course those are the same people that now ask about ttc and A_ doesn't want to tell them "Oh, turns out I have no vas deferens."
If I had to censor, what would be the point of a blog?
Do you have friends irl who read your blog? If so, do you think about them and their possible reactions as you write?
EDIT: In no way do I mean to criticize people who share their blogs with family and friends - I notice a lot of you do and if it works for you, that is way cool.