Thursday, July 2, 2009

Coinkydink?

Just went to the bookstore to buy Mel's book *Navigating the Land of IF* (squeeeeee!). I flipped it open when I picked it up and the page I landed on had a chart for a couple with azoospermia. It looked at the options of IVF w/ ICSI, donor sperm and adoption.
I smiled (how freaking cool is this book going to be?) closed it and bounded up to the checkout.
So. Standing in line...
Both the woman in front of me and the woman behind me had an adorable daughter. Both girls were adopted.
I stood there clutching my fabulous infertility book wondering if the universe was trying to tell me something.
Do you ever question the path you have chosen?
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23 comments:

  1. You're baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaack! And buying my book :-) Which just makes me love you more. Will you come to Chicago this month? Please please please? I know it's a drive, but at least it's closer than DC. And a bunch of bloggers who aren't going to BlogHer but live in the area are joining us. Pretty please?

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  2. Hmmm funny how sometimes "signs" are dropped on us isn't it?

    Enjoy the book, it's a good read :)

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  3. That's awesome! I need to pick up the book too. It looks great!

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  4. i definitely don't think it's a coincidence!

    ;)

    i wonder if i can get the book here in canada...

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  5. I insist that you go to Chi town and tell me ALL about it!

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  6. Do I ever question the path I have chosen?

    Um, YEAH! Only about a million times. Not to say that I think questioning that path means it's the wrong one, but the questions are always meaningful, no matter what they're trying to tell you.

    I love this story, Io. Because you sound so happy in the midst of the questions. And that makes me happy.

    And by all means you should make the trip to Chicago - let me live vicariously through you!

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  7. Heya. When you finish your book, can I borrow it? I am also thinking about adoption (as you already know). If you want to go to any meetings, let me know. I'm interested in learning all I can.

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  8. I had a couple of signs last month too... and to do with adoption. Feeling like I have to open up to the universe more and listen...

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  9. i felt so bad last september after my second IVF falure.......felt like my world crumbled. i thought i was never going to have kids. also, i was ANGRY. I was angry because i had been so positive thinking, and put all positive enegery out there, i prayed and asked with my whole heart for a child.....then when the IVF failed I felt like the world had failed me......i felt like the whole universe let me down. i was angry.

    then this march, along came andy. what a blessing that the IVF didn't work! if it had, there is no way we would have adopted andy because i would have already been pregnant when he arrived and I wouldn't have felt that I could have taken him on with being due for a baby in a few months....and I CAN'T IMAGINE MY LIFE WITHOUT ANDY NOW. (his birthmom was already 3 months pregnant when we started that IVF - so I'm positive now that is why it didn't work).
    I look back on it now and I can see how everything worked.....just as it was supposed to work.....but during the process I was so angry that i couldn't see what was happening. Now looking back....i see that it all happened just as it should have and I am so grateful for it.
    I hope the best for you......maybe the signs you are seeing are trying to prepare you for something......

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  10. Many times, yes. Very interesting indeed...
    I have my copy on a bookshelf, I've been too dang lazy to read it. :)

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  11. Yes, I question my path all the time. Sigh. Some days I wish I could stop questioning it and just blunder forward.

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  12. P.S i'd be happy to send you some Parisian pastries if you don't mind them getting a bit squashed... or the cream taking a turn for the worse.... I'm sure they'd still be delicious!!

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  13. You betcha. We're also members of the no swimmers club. We're trying, despite a difficult legal setup where we live (i.e. having to go abroad to do it) for embryo donation. Our chances with IVF are pretty much nil, adoption is extremely rare here and I'm not ok with DI - but every time there's a new roadblock, and they seem to be neverending, I wonder if I shouldn't be doing DI or doing something else entirely with my life. Even going along the path we've chosen -Have I picked the right clinic, the right country?

    One way or the other, the time will come when we won't have any more decisions to make! (I sorta can't wait.)

    ps - glad you are back!

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  14. When I find myself caught between signs like that, I often do find myself questioning whether or not I'm on the right path.

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  15. Love the title of your blog--wishing you much luck!

    - Molly
    http://roots-andwings.blogspot.com/

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  16. I can tell you from reading the book this weekend that there is a FABULOUS chapter on adoption. Of course, all the chapters are fabulous (but you may already know that since it's 3 days since you posted this).

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  17. All the time, dear, all the time.

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  18. oooh, I totally believe in signs!

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  19. Very interesting! Hmmm...

    I'm glad that you're back and I love the new blog look. I need to grab a copy of Mel's book as well.

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  20. Often question my path - and probably overinterpret signs....

    I will say that I loved the book and made DH read it ... and ordered it for my SIL.

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